Tuesday, 19 February 2019

She is being included. A birthday party!

When Ellie was at primary school she never had a best friend, she never went to birthday parties or sleepovers. She struggled to fit in. 

Up until about year 4 Ellie played with the boys, they accepted her and she had the best time at school. Then the boys got to an age where they decided girls were not cool and Ellie was left with no one. All the girls in the class had already formed their friendship groups and Ellie was the strange little girl who loved football, climbing and running about in the mud.

A couple of years ago Ellie was devastated that she wasn't invited to a party. All the girls in her class, about 13 of them were. It was implied that Ellie and another girl were left out because they were "different". Ellie was being assessed for Autism at the time and the other girl was already diagnosed. It broke her heart and mine too.

She struggled through the last years in primary school with the hope that when she started secondary school there would be new people and new friends to make. 

Thankfully we were right and there was lots of new friends to make. I won't name them. I will just use their initials. M, K, I, T, K & N! 

She had her first party invite a couple of weeks ago and it made her day, probably her year!! One of her closest friends invited her and a couple of other girls to go to one of the trampoline parks in Newcastle. She was so excited!!

I was a bit worried to start with as the girl asked if Ellie wanted to go and to ask me if she was allowed. Ellie said there was no official invite on paper and the girls mam would pick her up. I would have liked to have seen something in writing but I needn't have worried. Early last week the paper invite came and there was a phone number to text I's mam to let her know Ellie would be going. She sounded lovely. Phew!

We of course had to go shopping for a birthday present. I saw tons of things which tween girls would love but Ellie said no to everything. After looking around the shops for nearly two hours I had to say enough is enough, we either go back and buy something we have seen or find something in Wilko's. Thankfully they had some lovely stationery. Pretty but not too girly, not pink, it was practical and didn't break the bank. We also got her some sweets. Celebration's because there is bound to be something she likes in them and a little bath bomb set. It is so easy to buy for your own children but for other children which you don't know is a struggle.

Ellie got picked up last Saturday just before half past 2 and off she went. She came back just before 6pm and had the best time! She was taken out for tea and most importantly the girl loved her presents.

When she got home she was exhausted. All that bouncing really tired her out. She was in bed early and ached for a couple of days but she said it was worth it.

I love that Ellie has finally found a group of friends where she is included. She is such a happier child for having friends. This is all we have wanted for her for years.

Monday, 18 February 2019

Our weekly meal plan. 18th - 24th Feb! #MealPlanningMonday

We swapped a couple of days around last week but we ate everything I had planned. Stu decided on Friday that he was going to make a big pan of soup/broth. It was packed full of veggies and gammon and smelled delicious. I am not a fan of it but the kids did love it. They had it for lunch on Saturday and Sunday. The leftovers have been bagged up and put into the freezer.

This week it's half term and we have a couple of days out planned. We are going to visit my great aunt and we're planning a trip to the cinema too. We are also hoping to have an afternoon of baking. Yum!

This week on the menu we have:

Monday - Waffle pizza fries.
Tuesday - Sandwiches, crisps and the cakes we've baked.
Wednesday - Fish and chips probably from the chip shop.
 Thursday - Sausages, mash and veg.
Friday - We'll be eating out after the cinema!
Saturday - Fish finger sandwiches.
Sunday - Roast chicken dinner.

Sunday, 17 February 2019

Feeding time at the zoo! #MySundaySnapshot

On Wednesday Ellie had been poorly. She hadn't been sick but felt it and for most of the day she didn't eat anything. I worry when she doesn't eat as she is the one who usually has about 8 meals a day. lol 

To tempt her to eat I offered McDonalds for tea and it worked. She had a Happy meal and a McFlurry! Hooray! In fact a mid week treat was what we needed to cheer us all up!

Saturday, 16 February 2019

Week 7 of #Project365 - A photo every day for a year!

This past week was a long week. The run up to half term always is but we're here now and the school holidays have started hooray! I seemed to have taken lots of photos this past week and actually had a choice of photos for most days.

Here's a photo for every day!

40/365 - 9th February
She was off to her friends birthday party. She had a fantastic time and ached for days from bouncing so much at the trampoline park.

41/365 - 10th February
The kids finally gave me some of their strawberry creams from their boxes of Quality Street.

42/365 - 11th February
On the laptop.

43/365 - 12th February
I am cheating with this as it's off the Timehop app. From 10 years ago a simple Facebook status which was the start of a rough year for us. The start of the trouble with my girls hearts!

44/365 - 13th February
Ellie had a day off school, on the sofa, under the duvet. She wasn't well but felt better the next day.

45/365 - 14th February
My youngest saved me some of her Love Heart sweets. She is such a sweetheart sometimes. hehehe

46/365 - 15th February
Duck face. lol She does like to play with her Pringles.

Friday, 15 February 2019

This week my Word of the Week is: Positives! #WotW

This week my Word of the Week is:

What a week we have had. Everyday there has been something to stress me out and test me and I am quite glad this week is over. This post has been quite a hard one to write as there is a lot of our week which I am not going to share. I am going to stick with the positives from our week!

On Saturday Ellie went off to her friends birthday party and had a fab time at the trampoline park. She was worn out by the time she got home and ached for a couple of days but it was the best day ever. It seemed so strange with her not being here on a Saturday afternoon. It was very quiet.

Instead of just playing on the laptop Becky decided to do something productive with her Saturday and got a few t-shirts of hers which she loves but they were stained and faded and dye them. She went off and bought a fabric dye and dyed them all green. She was so pleased with herself. They turned out well and it's like she has a new set of t-shirts.

The Timehop app told me on Tuesday that it was 10 years since Ellie jammed her fingers in the door which led us to find out that she had a heart defect and in turn Becky had the same which ended with open heart surgery. Thinking about it, it is really good timing with it being slap bang in the middle of CHD Awareness Week.

It left me feeling pretty lucky that the accident happened but at the same time it was like a punch in the stomach, thinking about the what if's. I wrote a few posts this past week because I like to raise awareness since Congenital Heart Defects are the most common birth defect.

I got to spend the day with Ellie when she had an unexpected day off school on Wednesday. She wasn't well. She felt achy, sick, worn out and had a bit of a temperature. She spent the day on the sofa under the duvet watching TV. She is so into the Harry Potter films at the moment and she has decided that The Goblet of Fire is her favourite so we watched that. It makes me so happy that she is a fan!

The kids break up from school for half term today and I am so glad. We are looking forward to a break from the routine and a couple of days out. All being well we're going to visit my great aunt and we're also going for a trip to the cinema. Ellie really wants to see the new How to Train Your Dragon film so Stu will watch that with her and I think Becky and I are going to see something else. I have no idea what yet. Stu has the week off work so it's going to be nice to spend some time together.